Toxic relationships can be found anywhere. In families, they don't even accept the word "toxicity". They layer it with care, label it with attachment towards the child, and whatnot. Coming from a large family I was taught to behave well in front of my elders even when I was being emotionally abused.
It took me important years to realize how toxic my family environment was.
I was being used again and again for my mother's emotional needs.
It is really hard to find the silver lining when you are in a toxic relationship with your Mom.
At times she would behave mean and blame me for every tiny problem caused by her ignorance. In my case when I decided to take a stand for myself, I was given a character sketch of my "rude behavior".
She yelled at me- "All these years I have wasted after you so that you can treat me like this, I carried you in my womb, lost my precious time, and what you have done for me?"
Well, it is totally up to you how do you want to take this relationship further.
Here are some lines that your mom uses and it's going to affect you mentally-
1. What will your father think of it
If you are wearing a short skirt or something "screaming for the attention", she would never say directly instead she says- "have you gone mad? When your father will see this what am I gonna tell him? Go and wear something nice (covered).
2. You could have done better
A family gathering is a special stage for you to get embarrassed on by her.
No matter what you do she would come and say- " Hmm.. the decoration is good but food choices could have been better."
3. Aren't you talking too much to that male friend of yours
There's always been a drama concerned with how many of my friends are guys and who's that boy I have been talking too much about.
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