One of the deep-rooted societal illnesses which have been preying on women's lives for ages is still found in people's sick minds and blood. It has become the symbol of societal status and position and the only chance to let ramp walk their sons on the carpet of their degrees and job titles. People claim to love their daughters equally as their sons, but when it comes to showing real care they bind the daughters with ages-old customs and allow the latter in its promotion. I won't say "fortunately" but women are trying hard to get out of this evil system and when they finally make it possible then a new problem takes place. We are here to discuss why Indian parents think that there must be something wrong with the guy if he denies taking dowry.
Insecurity
Exactly, our society has been following a long-held belief very proudly therefore if a woman tries to dismiss it with no harm to the culture and disrespect her parents so they got to need something to hide their insecurity of being proven wrong. So, it will be better for them if they find a fault in the boy.
Ego
As a child, we have worshiped our parents and indeed they deserved it but it did never mean to follow them blindly or do whatever they tell you to just because they are your parents and they are right about everything. Parents make mistakes too and yes we can correct them and we should but it is them since they never raised a finger at their parents' decisions, therefore, it is hard for them to digest it so easily.
Reputation
Parents think if they will not give their daughters the gifts as all people do, what would others say about them, and what about their reputation? They think after educating daughters and making them independent then not giving the dowry in accordance with the groom will put a question mark on what they could have done for the daughters.
And hence to avoid this they choose to blame the boy and his family who don't ask for money.
We have to understand this and ask our families to take their time to digest the truth that not asking for dowry is a pretty normal thing to do and only a normal person will do this.
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