The never-ending argument over arranged marriage v/s love marriage has always been running in circles but never reaches the answer. As we know Arranged marriage is more like a custom made in our country and has been followed since the ages by an unreal number of people. As we know in an arranged, marriage partners have been chosen by the guardian, parents, close relatives, matchmakers, or the family Pandit(Priest) the family. It is based on pre-existing joint interests including family members too. They say in an arranged marriage, not only two persons get married but two families get married. Apart from some old-school and conservative procedures arranged marriage is not so scary if you have marked these checks.
You have known your partner well
After the meet-up of your families and their discussions, it is important that you stop them for the final yes that should come from you. Most families don't even ask the bride and groom and set the marriages based on their requirements/self-interests. Do not let that happen to you, talk and meet outside with your partner, spend some time together, observe each-others habits and dislikes then move forward. The post-date period should not be decided by your parents, it is you two who get to choose how long you should wait to say yes.
You did not hesitate to initiate
Often partners exchange numbers in family meetings and have a little chat (that too under observations) but do not get to ask so many questions in front of family members. Most of the time women do not ask for the fear of being judged by their in-laws which is very disappointing.
If you have opted for arranged marriage then you should not hesitate to ask whether you are a guy or a girl.
You didn't fear to open up about past
We have often been told that you should not share your past with your would-be husband/wife. It is wrong, well let's say that you shared your horrible past with your to-be-partner and he/she judged you or questioned your role then voila, reject him/her. If that person can raise a finger at you and your choices they don't stand a chance.
You have known each other's expectations
What your parents will tell you is to get to know the expectations of your in-laws but that's not what you gotta need first, the important thing is that you have known your partner's expectations and roles in upcoming life(what you two mutually decide). If you want a baby or not, how long you do not want it, and the finances, what city you are going to move in. This is only possible when you two have kept talking and meeting.
Have made it arranged love
Yes, is that a term? Well, make it. Get to know your partner, share your goals, match vibes, know likes and dislikes, and most importantly fall in love. The final call should come from your heart.
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