Talking about sex to your kids is a new and awkward topic in India. According to the study people in India hesitate to discuss their intimate hygiene or STDs. It is like a taboo and that is why people prefer to keep these up to themselves only. So, talking to your kid about sex is going to take a lot, probably a bomb explosion in your house. As parents, we understand the responsibility toward our children because we can not rely on the school's sex education where pages are mostly skipped. Our parents likely received no sex education in their generation and they did what was expected, kept things hidden until or after the time arrived.
This is what we do not want our kids to go through so, we got to find a way less burdened and fun to follow.
Start by sharing your experiences
Kids don't stick around easily when it comes to opening up about their first kiss or other intimate talks. For example, the elder one would not feel comfortable sharing their personal pieces of stuff around the younger kid. To break this, you start by sharing your first kiss in front of both children and tell them how glad you are sharing it with them.
Admit your awkwardness too
It is not necessary to pretend like a cool mom or dad whilst talking about sex in front of kids. Say, "Well it is going to be awkward but I have to tell you about this because this is important."
Differentiate between a cool joke and sexism/misogyny
Teaching our sons/daughters about misogyny and sexism in a meme or joke will make them learn about other aspects of a joke before sharing it. They will learn to take a stand if someone makes them do things forcibly.
Explain and discuss difficult matters
To be a parent your kids want to share private things with you have to be open about other things too. Like emotional abuse, trauma (you can share your own), and abortion, this way they will feel more connected and understood. Teach them to use protection to avoid inconvenience in the future.
Talk about consent and letting go of people
Adulthood can be full of aggression and confusion, so many children take things as if it is the only time to experience such things and sometimes they violate limits and create a mess for others too. When your kid is around helping you or watching TV, bring examples related to consent and respecting people's choices.
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