Wisely and carefully chosen people do not necessarily end up being good. They also can treat you like shit, so why waste your hope on them. Why do we always have to make sure that they never can be wrong because we chose them after a long long time? Thatâs where we fail and we start assuming that people are like this only.
But if you will look around you will find that there are a lot of people just like us, searching for meaningful friends, companions, and partners. Life doesnât end there we knew that from the very beginning of it, so why now? Why give up so easily?
When someone really special to you betrays your trust, the after pain leaves you broken. It costs you emotional trauma but it doesnât mean that you canât be healed.
The trauma of betrayal is the pain you feel hard to suffer and find yourself completely shattered. It can be caused by anyone:
- Best friend
- Romantic partner
- Family person
Betrayal trauma theory
The theory tells about suffering between married partners, a parent, and child, two close friends, or sometimes between old age partners too.
when you have been dependent for a long time on the person who is responsible for your mistrust in friendship or attachments, so by pulling away from them you can't seek solace or comfort.
Just because you are afraid of betryals, you stop being around people, social gatherings, and family functions.
You stay quiet or talk to children only because you keep searching for innocence, which you find hard to see in adults or peers.
If you are in a romantic relationship, of course, you can survive without your partner but for your emotional need and support, you will long for one.
The effects of betrayal have the following signs:
- Social anxiety
- Nightmares
- Panic situation
- Eating unhealthy
- Numbness
- Dependency on drugs
- Hardship in handling emotions
- Insomnia
- Lack of hunger
- Loss of self-confidence
You are going to heal
It is completely normal if you are taking time to heal yourself. Don't let others decide when you should be at a party or a social gathering.
Talk to your family, tell them that you are not okay. You need some more time.
Also, invest more time following your hobbies, think about the days when you started from scratch and how far you have come.
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