Remembering those days of being broken fills you up with so much bitterness and sadness. You avoid meeting new people and chatting online with someone thinking what if you really start to like this person, what if things go too far then you gotta share your number and start to date again. What after then? What if they break your heart too and leave you in misery. Can you afford to be broken again? Your friends and family have their lives too, they won't be available for your all heartbreaks? Do you even talk to them?
These are some samples of thoughts that a broken and wanna be loved again persons have but fear to be broken again. So here are some things you must follow if you want to feel safe in a relationship and want to completely forget what heartbreak looks like.
Stop Comparing
When you move on and step into a new relationship, it asks nothing but to stop comparing. Yes, my dear, you gotta close the past window of broken days, I know it is hard to when all you have experienced heartbreaks and denial in the name of a relationship. But try minimizing these windows and go fresh.
Once your head is free, you are really going to meet your expectations.
Don't set up expectations
When you meet a new person, try not to impose your choices on them. Get to know them first and their type. Live the moment and get comfortable with them. Do not plan too much, it may pressurize your partner or both of you two. Talk about unplanned things, and you will realize then it feels good when you inevitably find out something about your partner rather than "questions to ask" from your notes.
Don't indulge in Fantasies
Starting a new relationship makes everything look perfect because you haven't been touched by problems that going to stop you from fantasizing about your future with your partner. Romanticizing everything in your relationship going to cost you a major hurt because you avoided discussing what should have been discussed. So be aware of it, if do not want to be broken again, try not to be in thoughts all the time.
Don't say Yes to please them
You may have heard your friends telling you to step out of your comfort zone because it turns your partner on when you do something out of your league. No sweetie, learn to say no to the things you feel uncomfortable doing. If you will be honest with your partner, your heart will more likely be saved.
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