Breaking up a relationship after so many years of being together can be tough. Some people move on quickly as they had already been separated in their heads, but when two people have a lot of good memories together then it can be a little tricky to avoid phone calls and asking how they have been doing?
When you lose a partner, you see your dreamed future shattering with them, those date nights at weekend, binge-watching Netflix and Pun-tastic humor understood by just the both of you.
You can not disallow wholely, all at once. You still do care for them after all disputes that put you apart.
If you trust your ex and they respect your space, don't invade your privacy it is totally fine if you two still be talking like good friends.
Talk but keep some distance
When a relationship comes to an end, talking to your ex might seem irrelevant. Sometimes when you have a good friend in your partner first, you feel good talking to them. There's no harm in talking unless you are holding on to your feelings for them.
You two can talk and care for each other but a nice distance would be good for your further lives.
Don't pretend anything to them
You might have some friends around you who will tell you to pretend that you already have moved on and you don't give a damn about anything. This is a silly thing to do, that too when your Ex has been nicer to you.
Give time to heal yourself
This should be at the top of your list. Now is the time to focus on self-care and development. Think about the things you left undone, they will help your healing. Book yourself a Spa session and love yourself.
Handover their things nicely
Treating respectfully your Ex is a good way to show you want to make things easy only. Returning their things is a necessary task too. Keep their things safely in a box, bubble wrap fragile items, or keep them separately.
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