Breaking someone's heart never was the thing that you ever thought of doing. It was not a choice you either wanted to make, you just had to do this. It is as devastating as committing something wrong to your closest one. After you said the words the consequences might haunt you and you blame yourself for everything that happened but deep down you had the idea of the outcomes and yet you did what you felt was right. After seeing that person in pain or misery you sank yourself into guilt and now you think about undoing it but ask yourself a question, âWas I feeling happy and respected with them?â and you have the answer that is "No, never."
So you better be forgiving yourself for something you felt right doing during that time of hardships, here's how:
You can deal with the guilt
When your heart is full of thoughts like; I could have changed this, I might have made a mistake, I will be paid back for this, etc, you feel miserable and doubt every decision you make. But once you revisit the reasons for breaking someone's heart whom you cared about, you see that it was good for both of you because neither of you was happy together.
Better now than later
If you would have wasted your time thinking about the right time for doing this it would be too late and then you could have never made it. Leaving the toxicity and the source of it behind is far better than ending up somewhere you don't belong.
You saved your sanity
Be it in friendship or a romantic relationship, if you were being abused: demeaned, disrespected, and harassed emotionally by that person, you did make the right decision by choosing your mental peace and saving your sanity.
Appreciate yourself and respect your decisions
In your hardest of the hard times, you have always got your back and trust in your own.
Be firm about what you wanted to do and start working on it when you will see the result of doing something peacefully and willingly than doing it forcibly, you will thank yourself and regain your confidence in making decisions in no time.
You needed it more than you can think of
Sometimes we do not realize the urgency of coming out of someone's negativity unless we feel the lightness of leaving shits behind. There's nothing to be ashamed of being a heartbreaker (well in their minds). When you take a step towards rightness, you eventually going to be proud of it. Hold on to yourself and see everything falling into place.
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