First of don't make a big deal out of it. Some people start panicking and cursing the kid, and before giving it some thought they run to the wrong people to find the solution. You have to understand that you are not the only one who is facing this situation, many out there had figured out the reason and now are happily living with their stepchild.
Adolescence is the age when a child needs most is the acceptation. Validation from everyone and when they don't see it coming they tend to make wrong decisions. It is an understandable condition, especially when you have recently gotten married to a divorced/widowed person. It comes to you so suddenly that you only think to get yourself out of the situation without thinking that it is the child who needs help more than you. Read down to easily tackle the situation when your stepchild finds you attractive.
Appreciate their Honesty
If this situation ever occurs to you do not make a weird face in front of your stepchild. Tell them that you appreciate their honesty and thank them that they think you are still attractive. The next thing you gotta do is to make them understand that it is okay to find an older person attractive ( give some examples from your side). This will help them not rush to think of a stupid excuse immediately.
Tell their biological parents
Instead of calling your friend or mother, you should tell everything to their biological parent first. The child might have become your responsibility but it will be good if you tell their parents about it. Ask them not to overreact or punish your stepchild because it will break the friendly bond you two might have created over the honest conversation. And the child will assume you as this society has been portraying stepparents.
Do not tolerate the inappropriate behavior
After all of this if the stepchild doesn't stop you should start documenting all inappropriate behavior from the child's side. Sometimes in anger, stepkids go out of the line to reverse the blame as an act of revenge from you. This is why you should first follow the above two steps. 1. Their parents were informed, 2. You documented everything.
Support if they accept the mistake
If the stepchild accepts the fault and understands the hormonal causes told then support them and tell them you are always there for them to help and guide them. They might flip again from what they promised but you have to stand still. Tell them that it is not about the Forbidden Fantasies, it is you who decides whom you want to live with.
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