Having a crush on people around you or strangers you just meet is quite normal unless you forget that you are no more single. The reason why people feel guilty about having a crush while being in a relationship is that mistakenly they start feeding into their crush and very cleverly do not let them know that they are with someone. There are umpteen articles justifying having a crush altogether with being committed to someone but not everywhere you will see the threshold of flirting or eye-talking discussed thoroughly. And people take their phones to validate their actions and these half-discussed articles are enough to brainwash their minds which is terrifying and affects relationships.
When developing a crush not fair in relationships?
It is normal to have a crush and think about them. Many psychologists have claimed that crushes make you alive and beautiful. They make us appreciated and noticed. If either or both of the partners develop a crush on someone then majorly the reasons found were lack of attention and conversation gap in relationships.
Developing a crush was never a problem, it arises when you start obsessing over your crush and cross the line.
Fantasy vs real world
After getting validation for having a crush and fantasizing about their day and night people start avoiding the consequences and complicating it with their permanent partners. In front of their partners, they were caught lost in thoughts in their fantasy world. That's where the problem begins.
Personal issues and Self-sabotage
In some relationships after the end of the honeymoon phase, couples feel neglected. They reduce conversations, going out together, watching movies, or getting busy with kids. Relationships come with these ups and downs but this is why two people join hands to keep making things better.
Personal issues needed to be discussed, the more you stretch the silence, the weaker your bond becomes.
Needs vs Wants
People who are in this situation have complained of needs that were never being met in their committed relationships but in crushes.
Having a crush and being attracted to them is fine but when you start comparing what was missed in your life with your partner vs crush, is totally unfair. Introspect and ask questions to yourself. Have I fed into my crush intentionally? Is this the person I was supposed to be with? Am I hiding this from my partner and pretending to be cool?
Emotional affair
These affairs are platonic in nature. An emotional affair describes the closeness between two people with emotional intimacy and underlying sexual tensions. Developing a crush when taking turns to emotional intimacy cause infidelity and makes the committed relationship inappropriate.
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